Is it any wonder I reject you first?
Fame, fame, fame, fame
Is it any wonder, you are too cool to fool.
So much human behavior is driven by a fear of it,
or because of receiving it.
Most of the time rejection sucks.
Sometimes it’s kind of a relief.
Sometimes it is good for you.
Like a lot of things, how we react to rejection is a big part of how well we overcome it.
Do we just give up, or do we keep trying?
Do we keep trying the same thing, or do we try something new?
Edison was fired from his first few jobs for being unproductive. I hear he overcame that early rejection and invented some cool stuff later. Edison had the right sort of persistence: he not only kept trying through multiple failures, but kept trying new things. I am unlike Edison in almost every possible way. (Unlike Edison as a band name? Maybe) I am a wimp about any form of rejection,even the mere possibility of it. Obviously, worrying about rejection that may or may not ever even happen is…sigh…yeah. Just dumb. I know, I know. Working on it. I’d figure out how many things I’ve not done or said in my life out of a fear of rejection but that would be even stupider than having worried about the rejection in the first place. And I hate math. (As well as punctuation, apparently…and when did I start misusing parentheses like this?!?)
On the other hand, it’s not good to totally ignore rejection, either. For instance, if you are eternally shot down for the same stupid line you use to pick up women in a bar…well…maybe you should take the rejection under advisement and figure out what it is that we find so objectionable. Is it you personally, or your corny line? Or both? (Taking a moment to give thanks for no longer being of an age and level of attractiveness that makes me a target for these guys)
Personal rejection is difficult for me in particular. Are you a relative who told me that I’m lazy and stupid and will never be able to hold down a job? Yeah. I probably remember that. It motivates me in some ways, and just bugs the crap out of me in others. I can’t really argue with the part about being lazy, because I am.
On the plus side, I do get over rejection fairly quickly if it is professional or academic. I find it mildly annoying, if I think I’m right, to have an idea rejected. If I am wrong, I can mostly acknowledge it. Mostly. I don’t enjoy having an idea rejected because it is incorrect, but I do have to admit that I am not always right. And I can practically hear the sniggering! I don’t like to admit I’m wrong, but it does happen.
Do I have a point about this? Not really.
Just thinking out loud.
It would be out loud if you could hear me typing–I’m an assertive typer.