Let’s do it. Let’s go get the shit kicked out of us by love.
–Love, Actually
Vulnerability, I’m finding, seems to be a really important piece of being a happy human being. In order for people to connect, they have to see each other on a fairly deep level. They have to really know who they are inside. They have to trust the other person not to sack their emotional village.
And trust, initially, involves blind faith. In order to know if you can trust someone, you have to just trust them and see what happens.
Of course it has to be balanced. You want to be vulnerable in spots, like Achilles, as opposed to being a door mat that anyone can tear up as much as they want. When I talk about being open and vulnerable, I don’t mean defenseless. We have to protect ourselves while still letting people see us.
This is what I am wondering about right now. I am feeling particularly vulnerable and am wondering if I am doing something really stupid. Trusting someone I shouldn’t.
One of those mind vs heart cage matches, and I am listening to my heart.
My brain says I am a fool.
If I’m wrong, it will hurt. If I’m right, though…
And wouldn’t you rather be hurt for giving someone one too many chances than not giving them a chance at all?