Can I ask you something?<\/p>\n
Oh god. <\/p>\n
It isn’t anything awful. <\/p>\n
You’ll ask anyway. <\/p>\n
True. Well. No. <\/p>\n
No?<\/p>\n
No, I wouldn’t ask if you said no, but I’d be annoyed. <\/p>\n
Right. <\/p>\n
So are you going to answer, or would you rather annoy me?<\/p>\n
Can I reserve the right to decide until after I hear the question?<\/p>\n
I suppose that is fair. <\/p>\n
So, what’s the question?<\/p>\n
Can you name some qualities about me that men I date would find good and bad?<\/p>\n
Good? Smart, funny, likes football and other sports, spontaneous, can sing, likes good food, knows lots of interesting facts about stuff, beer…<\/p>\n
I’ve had several guys tell me I seem great but they don’t date women who like football. What’s the bad?<\/p>\n
Possible freak inducing qualities: very open about deep, dark thoughts… Might reference you in a blog that includes aforementioned thoughts… Lots of male friends… Laughs at just about everything, Cries about just about everything…<\/p>\n
Crying I get, but why would laughing freak someone out?<\/p>\n
You could be laughing at him. Men are sensitive about that. <\/p>\n
Huh. Good to know. <\/p>\n
Anything surprising to you other than that?<\/p>\n
Not really. There have already been issues because I have male friends. <\/p>\n
Really?<\/p>\n
Yeah. <\/p>\n
Why do you need to know?<\/p>\n
Just curious. <\/p>\n
You don’t need to change yourself to attract men. <\/p>\n
I am not. I just wonder what freaks them out sometimes. Thanks. <\/p>\n
You’re welcome. <\/p>\n
I’ve been thinking about it. You didn’t include that I am wordy and overthink everything. <\/p>\n
You’re arguing with my list?<\/p>\n
No. Yes. A little. <\/p>\n
Fine. Add wordy, over-thinking and relentless to both pros and cons. <\/p>\n
Relentless?<\/p>\n
You don’t think you are?<\/p>\n
Well…<\/p>\n
Seriously?<\/p>\n
Yeah. You’re right I am. <\/p>\n
I’m right?<\/p>\n
I am pretty good about saying when someone else is right. <\/p>\n
I’m going to let that pass. <\/p>\n
Thanks. <\/p>\n
Can I ask you a question now?<\/p>\n
Of course!<\/p>\n
Do you think maybe you are taking men’s reactions to you too personally?<\/p>\n
Yes, probably. I try not to, but when the rejections come in multiples I do wonder. <\/p>\n
Maybe you should take a step back and just be happy without worrying about men and what they think about you. <\/p>\n
Maybe. But I like men. <\/p>\n
I know you do. Maybe you just need to focus on good stuff in your life. <\/p>\n
I do! That is why I keep stepping back from dating, when I start feeling jaded. It’s just…<\/p>\n
What?<\/p>\n
I have stuff I need to figure out about what is not going well, so I write about it. The stuff that is going well doesn’t need to get figured out. It’s already working. <\/p>\n
Just saying that a little more concentrating on the positive couldn’t hurt. <\/p>\n
You’re right. <\/p>\n
Twice in one night?<\/p>\n
Hush up. One thing that I am definitely feeling very good about are all of my friends and family. <\/p>\n
You know good people. <\/p>\n
I definitely do. Present company included. <\/p>\n
Ditto. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"