If I die tomorrow, what would be the one thing you would always remember about me?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
A cheerful thought.<\/p>\n
And of course, we will never know what people remember about, will we? We’ll be dead.<\/p>\n
Will it be good? Bad? Will there be stories told? Will we be forgotten?<\/p>\n
Of course, it doesn’t matter. We will be gone.<\/p>\n
Still. People want to be remembered. Some are a bit maniacal about it, with monuments and prewritten obituaries. Most of us would be content to have friends and family recall good times, and forgive bad.<\/p>\n
At my memorial, if people disobey me and have one, there would need to be an open bar. At the bar, I would hope there would be at least a couple of old guys getting hammered who would start reminiscing and say “you know, Michelle was smart and funny and all that, but you know what I will always remember about her? I will always remember the first time she gave me a blow job.”<\/p>\n
OK. I know. \u00a0Most people want to be remembered for kindness, or their wonderful holiday meals. They want people to have Norman Rockwell memories about them. Not me. If I am remembered at all, I want to be remembered in a different way.<\/p>\n
Back to the geezers at the bar. It’s a memorial, so at first everyone would be try to shush them. My nephew would be mortified. Then people would start to laugh. Someone would point out that I would have loved having people drinking to what a sexual Goddes I was. It would cheer the place right up. People would definitely remember it. Rounds of drinks would get ordered. The geezers would compare notes and wonder how many of them there were.<\/p>\n
It would be a happy way to be remembered<\/p>\n
I suppose there are a few other things I would like for people to remember about me, but now I am very inclined to start compiling a very specific sort of guest list for a party I won’t be able to attend..<\/p>\n
I wish I could. My friends and family know how to celebrate!<\/p>\n
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