{"id":5572,"date":"2014-05-24T05:40:29","date_gmt":"2014-05-24T12:40:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/michellejolin.com\/wordpress\/?p=5572"},"modified":"2014-05-23T22:40:46","modified_gmt":"2014-05-24T05:40:46","slug":"leaving-home","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=5572","title":{"rendered":"Leaving home"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>When I left home for the first time, I was 17 years old.<\/p>\n<p>In the middle of the night, I opened my bedroom window, tossed out a backpack and my car keys, pushed my car to the end of the street so it wouldn&#8217;t wake up my step-father when I started it, and drove away. <\/p>\n<p>Either he was going to kill me, or I was going to kill him. I didn&#8217;t intend to give him the satisfaction of either.  My black eye and broken ribs would heal, and my  step-father could fuck himself. He was certainly never going to fuck <em>me<\/em> again. I just wouldn&#8217;t think about my mother. Not yet. <\/p>\n<p>In a few weeks I would be 18. Then I would be safe. That&#8217;s what I thought. That if I was an adult in the eyes of the law,  my bastard of a step-father could never hurt me again. <\/p>\n<p>It turned out I was wrong about that. I was wrong about everything. Almost everything. He never raped me again. As I climbed out the window that night, I was sure that the worst thing that would ever happen to me was in the past. <\/p>\n<p>There are worse things than being raped and beaten by your parent. Much worse. No one should ever have to know that, should they?<\/p>\n<p>As I drove away from that place that was never my home, I didn&#8217;t cry. I would save that for later.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When I left home for the first time, I was 17 years old. In the middle of the night, I opened my bedroom window, tossed out a backpack and my car keys, pushed my car to the end of the street so it wouldn&#8217;t wake up my step-father when I started it, and drove away. &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=5572\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Leaving home<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5910,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5572","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-words"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p7lr3R-1rS","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":11570,"url":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=11570","url_meta":{"origin":5572,"position":0},"title":"An imaginary conversation about the overactive imagination","author":"Michelle","date":"May 15, 2018","format":false,"excerpt":"Sometimes when I'm reading your book, it's hard for me to separate the main character from you. 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