{"id":5716,"date":"2014-05-14T05:10:07","date_gmt":"2014-05-14T12:10:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/michellejolin.com\/wordpress\/?p=5716"},"modified":"2014-05-13T22:05:33","modified_gmt":"2014-05-14T05:05:33","slug":"the-secret-to-happiness-or-indifference","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=5716","title":{"rendered":"The secret to happiness or indifference and why writers are screwed"},"content":{"rendered":"

The secret to happiness is letting everything be what it is instead of what you think it should be and accepting it.
\n–Every Fucking Guru<\/p>\n

People who write are doomed to be unhappy because they think too much<\/a>
\n–the Daily Beast<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

The happiness gurus say the secret to happiness is just accepting what is. <\/p>\n

I have a problem with that. Or rather an argument. Why yes, that is<\/em> surprising. I am so seldom argumentative in general. <\/p>\n

My quibble is that letting everything be what it is and just accepting it is exactly the same thing I do when I am drifting through life aimlessly and not giving a shit about anything or anyone. It’s the same thing I do when I am hurting. It’s drifting. It’s aimless. It’s not being happy. It is just being. It is just letting shit happen. It is not trying to be better. <\/p>\n

It is all in the interpretation of “accepting,” I suppose, but don’t think I haven’t noticed that the key to happiness and indifference is the same. <\/p>\n

It’s all in the way you live it, of course, but stop making it sound easy. It may be simple but it sure isn’t easy. Much like not eating too much.<\/p>\n

It doesn’t matter. I think too much for either of the two extremes anyway. I think too much for just letting it be, and not enough to be a really excellent tortured soul.<\/p>\n

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Know what? I am going to play hookey tonight. Maybe it’s too late to call it playing hookey. I am going to just up and quit in the middle because…I am just done. Tired. Done. Empty brained.<\/p>\n

It isn’t a total loss. I got to have a glass of wine with my lovely friend. That’s better than blogging any time.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The secret to happiness is letting everything be what it is instead of what you think it should be and accepting it. –Every Fucking Guru People who write are doomed to be unhappy because they think too much –the Daily Beast The happiness gurus say the secret to happiness is just accepting what is. 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