{"id":6030,"date":"2014-06-02T05:30:48","date_gmt":"2014-06-02T12:30:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/michellejolin.com\/wordpress\/?p=6030"},"modified":"2014-06-01T23:32:52","modified_gmt":"2014-06-02T06:32:52","slug":"decisions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=6030","title":{"rendered":"Decisions&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>If they were right, I&#8217;d agree, but it&#8217;s them you know not me.<br \/>\n&#8211;Cat Stevens\/Father and Son<\/p>\n<p>Close calls can be catalysts. Even ones that really aren&#8217;t all that close. Even ones that aren&#8217;t even yours. <\/p>\n<p>First a catalyst. A decision. Then change.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s the decision that is the hard part, at least for me. Once I have decided something, I can live with it. I&#8217;ve made some pretty stupid decisions over the years, but I can&#8217;t really look back and say that I regret any of them. Nothing too awful has ever happened to me as a result. Some of the people impacted by my decisions might have been hurt initially, but even for them things seem to have worked out. <\/p>\n<p>Good decision making or luck?<br \/>\nI have no clue.<br \/>\nMaybe both. <\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t know how other people make decisions. I like to say that I go by my gut, or my heart&#8230;and that&#8217;s probably true in the end..but I put a lot of obsessive thought into any major decision. <\/p>\n<p>My brain tells me all about what is rational, and I do listen to my rational side. When my heart agrees with my brain, it&#8217;s simple. <\/p>\n<p>When they disagree?<\/p>\n<p>Usually one side feels more strongly about something than the other. That also make&#8217;s things simpler. If my heart really wants something and my brain shrugs. Cool. If my heart thinks it wants something and my brain screams &#8220;are you fucking kidding me?&#8221; Again, simple. <\/p>\n<p>If it&#8217;s a tie? <\/p>\n<p>Hopefully that won&#8217;t ever happen.<\/p>\n<p><meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/><br \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@site_username\" \/><br \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:title\" content=\"Michelle's House of Horrors\" \/><br \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:description\" content=\"Perhaps. Maybe. Who knows?\" \/><br \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@creator_username\" \/><br \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:image:src\" content=\"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/05\/image.jpg\" \/><br \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:domain\" content=\"MichelleJolin.com\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If they were right, I&#8217;d agree, but it&#8217;s them you know not me. &#8211;Cat Stevens\/Father and Son Close calls can be catalysts. Even ones that really aren&#8217;t all that close. Even ones that aren&#8217;t even yours. First a catalyst. A decision. Then change. It&#8217;s the decision that is the hard part, at least for me. &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=6030\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Decisions&#8230;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6029,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6030","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-words"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/michellejolin.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/06\/20140601-205237-75157744.jpg?fit=454%2C313&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p7lr3R-1zg","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":11881,"url":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=11881","url_meta":{"origin":6030,"position":0},"title":"On being a mean human","author":"Michelle","date":"August 19, 2021","format":false,"excerpt":"The other day I looked myself right in the eyes in the mirror and thought \u201cstop being such a moron.\u201d It was, as it always is, work related. 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