{"id":7607,"date":"2014-09-21T05:30:28","date_gmt":"2014-09-21T12:30:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/michellejolin.com\/wordpress\/?p=7607"},"modified":"2014-09-20T23:55:00","modified_gmt":"2014-09-21T06:55:00","slug":"stuff-i-have-learned-in-the-last-year","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=7607","title":{"rendered":"Stuff I have learned in the last year"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Be yourself<br \/>\nDon&#8217;t pretend<br \/>\nNo one is all bad or all good<br \/>\nTelling people what you want is scary, but sometimes actually results in getting what you want<br \/>\nTell people you love them<br \/>\nLove people<br \/>\nNever assume bad intent<br \/>\nBe kind to yourself<br \/>\nGive people a chance. More than one.<br \/>\nRealize that people probably don&#8217;t mean to fuck you up when they fuck up<br \/>\nTrying new things is fun<br \/>\nLaughing until you can&#8217;t breathe is great therapy<br \/>\nDon&#8217;t be afraid to have a heated discussion if it&#8217;s important<br \/>\nSometimes you hurt people you love<br \/>\nBeing happy leads to more being happy<br \/>\nI have more things to be grateful about than I could ever possibly list<br \/>\nMy friends save my life in ways big and small every damn day<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Be yourself Don&#8217;t pretend No one is all bad or all good Telling people what you want is scary, but sometimes actually results in getting what you want Tell people you love them Love people Never assume bad intent Be kind to yourself Give people a chance. More than one. Realize that people probably don&#8217;t &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=7607\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Stuff I have learned in the last year<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7607","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-words"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p7lr3R-1YH","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":11280,"url":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=11280","url_meta":{"origin":7607,"position":0},"title":"Is it a yes or a no?","author":"Michelle","date":"March 20, 2018","format":false,"excerpt":"At happy hour the other night, one of the guys mentioned something that resonated with me.\u00a0 He was referring to a concept I'd read about several years ago and forgotten. 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