Lately I have been having a hell of a time making up my mind about something. Assuming my expectations are unreasonable. Assuming I am wrong. Not really knowing what I want. Whenever I am faced with a decision and an answer isn’t obvious, I like to make a list. Or maybe I just like making lists in general. This one helped me sort some things out for myself. <\/p>\n
What I was trying to figure out is what I want from a man. Most of these would apply to either a friend or a lover…but obviously some are intended for someone I’d be involved with on a very intimate level. <\/p>\n
So what do I want? Everything, if I look at this list. <\/p>\n
Someone who worries about me and wants to know I’m safe, even though he knows I can take care of myself. <\/p>\n
Someone who will tell me what he wants. Even if he is afraid I won’t like it. <\/p>\n
Someone who is willing to discuss things. Even hard things. <\/p>\n
Someone who doesn’t play games with the difference between factual and honest. <\/p>\n
Someone who can simultaneously love me for my independence while making me feel like I am all his. <\/p>\n
Someone who isn’t afraid to be silly. Bonus points for singing to me in public. <\/p>\n
Someone who makes time for me, even when he’s busy. Someone who makes seeing me a priority.<\/p>\n
Someone who lets me show him how important he is to me, and shows me how important I am to him. <\/p>\n
Someone who is very tactile. Who touches and likes to be touched. Who maybe has a hard time keeping his hands off of me. Someone I can reinvent the kiss with. Someone who will hold onto me. <\/p>\n
Someone who will let me be alone for short periods so I can do my introverted soul recharging thing. But not TOO long. <\/p>\n
Someone who is maybe just a little jealous of my men friends but trusts me enough not to mind that I spend time with them..and even likes them. <\/p>\n
Someone assertive and decisive in a kind way. <\/p>\n
Someone who is not dismissive. Of me, of my ideas, of my life. <\/p>\n
Someone who wants me to know him, and wants to know me. Someone who sees the real me, and lets me see the real him. <\/p>\n
Someone who understands that there are times when I really like someone to take control. <\/p>\n
Someone who laughs with me and makes me laugh, but also makes me think and helps me grow. <\/p>\n
Someone who has a nickname for me that is mine alone. Not babe or sweetheart. <\/p>\n
Someone who loves me because of all my weirdness and not in spite of it. <\/p>\n
Someone who can’t wait to tell me about things that happen in his day. <\/p>\n
Someone who not only loves me completely but also likes me. <\/p>\n
Someone to exchange things we don’t like doing with. If I clean the gutters, he will find out what the noise under the house was. <\/p>\n
Someone who follows through. Someone who does what he says he will do. Someone who is honorable. <\/p>\n
Someone who is there for me. <\/p>\n
Someone who tastes and smells good. <\/p>\n
Someone who doesn’t freak out if I cry. <\/p>\n
Someone who doesn’t freak out if I get angry. <\/p>\n
Someone who will stand his ground with me and argue with me if I am being unkind or unreasonable. <\/p>\n
Someone who doesn’t let me kick myself in the ass unless I really deserve it. <\/p>\n
Someone who is kind to me and to others.<\/p>\n
Someone who will read with me. Someone who will read to me. And talk about what we read. <\/p>\n
Someone with the gift of having fun doing nothing in particular.<\/p>\n
Someone who loves music. Bonus points for being a musician. Extra bonus points for playing and singing with me. <\/p>\n