{"id":947,"date":"2013-08-24T08:00:57","date_gmt":"2013-08-24T15:00:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/michellejolin.com\/wordpress\/?p=947"},"modified":"2013-08-23T06:19:03","modified_gmt":"2013-08-23T13:19:03","slug":"what-is-real-anyway","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=947","title":{"rendered":"If you want it, here it is, come and get it"},"content":{"rendered":"

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The moth don’t care if the flame is real<\/p>\n

cuz flame and moth got a sweetheart deal.
\n–Aimee Mann\/the Moth<\/p>\n

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There is a lot of talk in\u00a0 the inspirational quotes racket about getting what you want, knowing what you want, wanting what you get.<\/p>\n

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Wanting.<\/p>\n

How do all these people even know what they want in the first place??<\/p>\n

The moth knows. The moth wants that flame. He doesn’t care if it’s a light bulb, a lighter or a blazing fire. He doesn’t care if it kills him, but he knows he wants it.\u00a0 Some sort of biological imperative. Navigation. Reproduction. No one is sure.<\/p>\n

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I think I was born without that gene.<\/p>\n

The gene for knowing what I want, not the gene for flying into a flame.<\/p>\n

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Although obviously there was that ONE time….<\/p>\n

I didn’t like it.<\/p>\n

Flying into a flame that is.<\/p>\n

Well, I didn’t really fly into it<\/em>. It<\/em> flew into me<\/em>.\u00a0 I don’t recommend being on fire in any way but metaphorically.<\/p>\n

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On the other hand, I’ve never been good at knowing what I do<\/em> want,\u00a0 so I’ll have to let you know about that once I’ve experienced it.<\/p>\n

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I expect that it will involve books, music, and people I love…beyond that, I haven’t a clue.<\/p>\n

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Those are all pretty great things on their own though.<\/p>\n

I’m not worried.<\/p>\n

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  The moth don’t care if the flame is real cuz flame and moth got a sweetheart deal. –Aimee Mann\/the Moth   There is a lot of talk in\u00a0 the inspirational quotes racket about getting what you want, knowing what you want, wanting what you get.   Wanting. How do all these people even know … Continue reading If you want it, here it is, come and get it<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-947","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-words"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p7lr3R-fh","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":3313,"url":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=3313","url_meta":{"origin":947,"position":0},"title":"81338 words in 2013","author":"Michelle","date":"January 4, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"So...that's kind of a lot of words. 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