{"id":9790,"date":"2015-04-22T05:00:38","date_gmt":"2015-04-22T12:00:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/michellejolin.com\/wordpress\/?p=9790"},"modified":"2015-04-21T21:16:20","modified_gmt":"2015-04-22T04:16:20","slug":"living-or-coasting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=9790","title":{"rendered":"Living life to the fullest…bah!"},"content":{"rendered":"

All three caravans of the Traveling Symphony are labeled as such, THE TRAVELING SYMPHONY lettered in white on both sides, but the lead caravan carries an additional line of text:
\nBecause survival is insufficient .
\n–Emily St. John Mandel\/ Station Eleven<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

One of the things that makes online dating a bigger challenge than it needs to be is all of the people who are really into proving that they live every moment to the fullest. To the point where if I see the phrase “I live life to the fullest” in a profile, I am tempted to just move onto the next person without reading any further.<\/p>\n

Why?<\/p>\n

Because most of the time, it’s being used as a test. It’s being used as a way  to exclude people. It’s being used to demonstrate superiority. It isn’t really about living at all, at least for a lot of people. <\/p>\n

For one thing, it’s socially acceptable way for a person to say “no fatties” without being open about it. Know what? As far as I am concerned, it’s OK to have a sexual preference for a thin body type. Some people like a thin frame. Some prefer someone who is more ample. Be open about it.  You don’t get to have it both ways, though. If you are, in fact, not attracted to people who are overweight, you don’t get credit for being being open minded if you’re putting it in terms of a fitness test. Don’t indicate that you are not fussy about thinness if,  in fact, you are. <\/p>\n

Many live life to the fullest proponents do not respect lifestyles that involve more brain than body activity. Only motion is the “correct” way to live life to the fullest. Sitting still activities, like reading, art, writing, or other creative or intellectual endeavors aren’t valid. So someone like me, who is very willing to try new things, would always be failing the test because at some point, I would want to sit in the sun and read instead of going on a 15 mile hike. I might turn down night skiing because I want to do some writing. Would they be as willing to spend a sunny day going for a poky walk in the park and then reading? No. It would be wasting the day. The really relevant part to me is that to them, THEIR way of spending the day is not wasting it. Only mine is. <\/p>\n

Only moving activity counts as living life at all to some people. If someone who spent the weekend running an ultramarathon asks you what you did last weekend and you reply “I read 2 books, went for a couple of walks in the park,  watched a TED talk about neural science and how easy it is to rewire your brain for either happiness or sadness, made a couple of hats,  wrote a short story, did the usual errands\/laundry\/groceries\/cleaning, had dinner with friends on Saturday and warped my loom so I can start a shawl, ” the one who ran 70 miles is going to probably going to respond with something like “a couple of walks? That’s all you did all weekend?” He won’t even hear the rest. It wasn’t active, so it isn’t interesting. Never mind that you were doing something relatively productive the entire time. More productive, probably, than running for a whole weekend.  You put new information into your brain. You made things. You weren’t doing nothing–you were engaged in life just like they were. You weren’t watching TV all weekend, you were using your brain and your body and socializing with friends. You were creating something. <\/p>\n

So why the attitude? When did doing some sort of physical activity during every moment of free time  become a sign that you are living life better than others? What happened to balance?<\/span><\/p>\n

Leonardo da Vinci spent most of his time creating art, researching wacky ideas for inventions, writing things down backwards in a notebook, and had a ton of pen pals. As far as I know, he didn’t go kayaking, mountain biking, snowboarding, or surfing even once. He never ran even a sprint triathlon or a half marathon. Slacker. <\/p>\n

What a wasted life. He would never be able to get a date on OKCupid!<\/p>\n

….<\/p>\n

Side note and acknowledgement: not all of the live life to the fullest types are annoying douche canoes. Many of them are very nice, and like to drink a lot of beer when they come down from the mountain. Many of them are just full of crazy manic energy that only motion satisfies. This is not about those people. This is about the ones who use the mountains they’re hiking and skiing on as places from which to look down on the mere mortals at home. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

All three caravans of the Traveling Symphony are labeled as such, THE TRAVELING SYMPHONY lettered in white on both sides, but the lead caravan carries an additional line of text: Because survival is insufficient . –Emily St. John Mandel\/ Station Eleven One of the things that makes online dating a bigger challenge than it needs … Continue reading Living life to the fullest…bah!<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9790","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-words"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p7lr3R-2xU","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":7433,"url":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=7433","url_meta":{"origin":9790,"position":0},"title":"Whose life is best?","author":"Michelle","date":"September 10, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"Is it really necessary to have competition around living life? Live life to the fullest, says....everyone. Well, OK, but don't look down on people because you think you live your life better than they do. The following questions are all rhetorical. You run 3 hours a day. I read or\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Words"","block_context":{"text":"Words","link":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?cat=7"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":6088,"url":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=6088","url_meta":{"origin":9790,"position":1},"title":"On being poor…or rather poorer","author":"Michelle","date":"June 7, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"With some of the recent events in my life..events that I am the cause of...I find myself in a position where I can no longer just buy shit on any whim. $60 candles? Another black eyeliner? Fluevogs? Today I felt like curling my hair and realized I have no way\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Words"","block_context":{"text":"Words","link":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?cat=7"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/michellejolin.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/06\/20140606-094852-35332494.jpg?fit=454%2C313&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200","width":350,"height":200},"classes":[]},{"id":4282,"url":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=4282","url_meta":{"origin":9790,"position":2},"title":"This is time","author":"Michelle","date":"March 4, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"And forever more, I'll be on your side for sure - A light in your life, that always burns for you As time passes.... so quickly. --Paul Weller\/Time Passes It's the beginning of March. I am looking at my calendar. I'm getting my hair done next week. And a tattoo.\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Words"","block_context":{"text":"Words","link":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?cat=7"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":9135,"url":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=9135","url_meta":{"origin":9790,"position":3},"title":"How well do you know anyone?","author":"Michelle","date":"February 1, 2015","format":false,"excerpt":"All of a sudden she began to whistle. By all of a sudden I mean that for more than thirty years she had not whistled. It was thrilling. At first I wondered, who was in the house, what stranger? I was upstairs reading, and she was downstairs. As from the\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Words"","block_context":{"text":"Words","link":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?cat=7"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":2050,"url":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=2050","url_meta":{"origin":9790,"position":4},"title":"The wisdom of the Ramones","author":"Michelle","date":"October 17, 2013","format":false,"excerpt":"\u00a0 One day I will find the right words, and they will be simple --Jack Kerouac\/The Dharma Bums \u00a0 But why listen to Kerouac, when the Ramones tell us pretty much everything we need to know about living?\u00a0 Kerouac doesn't even have a good beat, and you can't really dance\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Words"","block_context":{"text":"Words","link":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?cat=7"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":6404,"url":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?p=6404","url_meta":{"origin":9790,"position":5},"title":"Learning to fly","author":"Michelle","date":"June 30, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"Blackbird singing in the dead of night Take these broken wings and learn to fly All your life You were only waiting for this moment to arise. --the Beatles\/Blackbird Well who hasn't been there before? I come round, around the hard way Bring you comics in bed, scrape the mold\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Words"","block_context":{"text":"Words","link":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/?cat=7"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/michellejolin.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/06\/20140629-140932-50972583.jpg?fit=454%2C313&ssl=1&resize=350%2C200","width":350,"height":200},"classes":[]}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9790","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=9790"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9790\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=9790"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=9790"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/michellejolin.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=9790"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}