I have yet to actually meet anyone in person from the online dating site I’ve signed up for. One near miss.
What has happened is that I have gotten a lot of messages about my looks. Badly spelled messages. There are a handful of people who I will possibly meet at some point.
And then there are the ones I really wouldn’t be interested in dating, but I have had some great talks with them online about their gender roles and sexual identity.
A lot of us think of sexual preference as an either/or. You like men or women and pick one. You are the gender you were born with, and you stay with that gender. For many people neither their gender identity or their sexual preference are that clear.
There is a whole Queer world out there that a lot of people are unaware of. Or make fun of. I think of it as just another thing in life that is interesting and complicated. It’s a little hard for me to relate to because I can’t imagine wanting to be anything other than female. I haven’t ever wanted to be male. I love men, but it’s not who I want to be. It must be tremendously difficult to feel like you were born with the incorrect gender.
OK. I am falling asleep. This is no time to write.
My social life and writing are all out of balance. I need to try to do better.
Good night!