A while ago, I read this article in the NYT about how to fall in love with anyone.
Or rather, it’s an essay about a study about how people bond which seemed to have a lot of success in creating love in a lab setting. The study inspired someone to give it a try.
The idea is very simple. Two people take turns answering 36 questions designed to create a bond of intimacy. At the end of the questions, they gaze into each other’s eyes. It’s basically an accelerated way of doing the bonding that generally happens slowly over time by focussing on the type of questions that really increase feelings of closeness and intimacy, at least in part through being open and vulnerable.
I went back to re-read it later and discovered that the questionnaire is available online now. I just need to find someone to spend an hour gazing into my eyes and taking turns answering the questions…
What is there to worry about? The worst that could happen is that you would fall in love with me…or would it be worse for me to fall in love with you?